When someone falls in love, they allow the relationship to bloom and flourish at its own pace. They will not rush to make it official, as they would want to see how the relationship develops. But someone obsessed with you will be afraid of losing you and insist on making your relationship official. When in love, it is natural for your partner to pamper you and make you feel special occasionally. But when love becomes an obsession, your partner may constantly pamper you with gifts and surprises to keep you happy in a way that makes it difficult for you to abandon them.
It is normal for a partner to want to know what you feel about them. But if your partner often asks you what you think about them and seeks validation from you, it shows their obsessive-love tendency. It could be because they have been hurt in love before and see you as a prized possession that has to be protected at all cost. They seek frequent validation to ensure that their place in your life is secure. Initially, you might find it endearing to see your partner go green with envy whenever they see you with another person.
A little possessiveness is a part of love. But if your partner starts snooping on you, checks your phone, and gets angry when you speak to another person, it shows their over-possessiveness. But what if your partner wants to maintain constant chat sessions even after months of dating? The constant need to be around or to text or call is an obsession because it shows that they think about you all day long.
Such kind of attachment is unhealthy for both partners. But if your partner is the sole decision-maker and decides everything for you, it indicates their obsessive behavior. Call it love and care when you are working late, and your partner calls to check on you.
But if they call you frequently, even when they know you are out with your friends, it is an obsession. They want to keep a tab on you and even feel upset when you fail to answer them.
They check on you more out of addiction and less out of care. It is normal for a partner to ask you how your day was and express that they missed you. Due to the distance KM we hardly could understand each other prospective and faught over it. I considered it as Distance and thought it will be okay when we wil be together.
She showed too much love to me in beginning of relationship , so much respect and trust but slowly slowly it went.. I showed my anger on her that she should be concern about calls. We had a fight on this. I tried to reach her to explain that I was just concern for your safety and since I got head enjury on that day, I was not in stable condition as my head was spinning on each bad thought.
Anyways she didnt realize it and thought I was making a story. I kept writting her emails sending cards etc for 1 months. Meanwhile I was also preparing my new home for her. I thought she is angry and eventually one day understand my LOVE to her what she always have been seeking in me. The first time she knew that I am in the city she didnt meet me. Her friends advised me to meet her after 5 days, Second time I again tried to meet her, this time she mate me.
I stayed with her for 4 days. After settling all I came back to my place. On 31st Dec night , I asked her to skype with me at After seeing repetitive her behaviour, I couldnot control on myself and yelled on her to ask her why she is doing that way. After that she again stopped talking to me and blocked me from eveyr where even though I sent her sorry message and called twice. I started doing all the things what she always wanted from me. I am unable to understand that how some one be so insensitive and irresponsible about relationship who breaks the relationship in every kind of fight?
This is obsession, healthy love is not that demanding and focused on rules and feelings. Sometimes, for true love you have to rewrite the rules. Let her be and if u stop forcing her to do certain things and be certain way, she will come around. Just be patient. I am also in your same situation but as for me I was there for him in every of his problems..
Financially physically.. I gave up my everything for him.. I took money for him to almost all my friends to help him it almost reached lakh. I even ended up loosing my job cos of him I was humiliated in front of my Co workers cos of him… He cheated me he asked me to take money from my friends imotionally blackmailing me to spent that money on his so called gf.
He said the girl did not love her and think him as a friend but they even make love. But they were not in relation and he cheated the girl too saying he is single. To be fair, it's easy to confuse the two.
As Mark B. Borg, Jr,. D, clinical psychologist and author of Relationship Sanity tells Bustle, "Most of us start out our love relationships in a heightened state of insecurity and anxiety.
Falling in love takes a lot of risk. In order to be in a truly emotionally fulfilling relationship, you need to be able to be vulnerable and allow another person in.
For a lot of people, that can be pretty scary when you don't know how your partner feels. This state of the unknown can create a feeling of anxiety that won't really go away until you know for sure that your partner reciprocates your feelings, Borg says. In a healthy relationship, both partners will be able to say how they're feeling and that anxiety should go away. But if that feeling of anxiety is still there, it can lead to obsession.
So if your partner does any of these things, experts say it may not be love but obsession. When someone is obsessed and not in love, Dr. Many people have felt the pain of a broken heart and the intensity of infatuation. Obsessive love takes these emotions further, causing a person to fixate on their loved one as though they are an object or possession.
However, obsessive love can be a sign of other mental health challenges and conditions. If the person experiencing feelings of obsessive love does not receive treatment for the overall symptoms, they may struggle to emotionally regulate these feelings. In very extreme cases, this may even trigger acts of violence or abuse. Keep reading to learn more about what characterizes obsessive love, the causes and symptoms behind it, and some possible treatment options. Likewise, there is no single list of criteria that can distinguish obsessive love from real love.
Love is a potent force. People with feelings of love experience a rush of dopamine and other powerful brain chemicals. For some people, these feelings are so powerful that they become obsessed with keeping and controlling the person they love. They may appear to worship their partner at times, but become angry or jealous at the slightest threat.
Rather than loving the person and wanting the best for them, people with obsessive tendencies may love the other person because of their own needs. Real love requires compromise and negotiation, while obsessive love demands that the object of affection submits to the demands of their partner. Real love involves accepting the other person and acknowledging their flaws. Obsessive love may involve worship and a refusal to acknowledge any flaws. Obsessive love makes it very difficult for a person to let go.
Although breakups are usually painful and can trigger unhealthful behavior, people with feelings of obsessive love may refuse to accept that the relationship has ended. Obsessive love sometimes involves a relationship that does not actually exist, such as with a celebrity or a stranger. There are many factors that may cause obsessive love. The sections below discuss these factors in more detail. Mental health conditions such as bipolar I disorder and schizophrenia , as well as symptoms triggered by alcohol use disorder, may cause delusions of erotomania.
This is not the same thing as obsessive love, but it may be a symptom of a much more serious mental health condition. Erotomania is a rare delusional disorder that may cause a person to believe that destiny requires a specific relationship. The person may even delude themselves into believing that a relationship that ended long ago is still loving and healthy. Erotomania can also cause a person to believe that another person loves them.
Sometimes, the object of their love may even be someone that they do not know.
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